Let me start by wishing all of you out there Happy Mother´s day to any kind of mothers out there. Be it biological, adoptive, surrogate or however it is the way you become Mother to your child/children.
If we embrace children´s perspective, a mother is the mother. The one who is by their side when they fall on a bike ready with a plaster and a kiss, the one who reassure them at night after having a nightmare or the one who reads bedtime stories every night, no matter how tired she is.
When I became an adoptive mother of an almost 5 years old child (she is now almost 11), brought some confusion to our first Mother’s days celebration. The first year I felt the responsibility to give my daughter some options; should we give your gift to your bio-mum? I heard myself asking! She looked puzzled but also she paused thinking and said: I want to think about it!
She was 4 and half, yet she wanted to think about it!
The hours between her thinking and me being the chosen recipients of her Mother´s day gift were very hard. Today six more Mother’s day have passed and we have learned that in life it is better to multiply instead of dividing.
So here we are: double celebration! One card and one nice bouquet of freshly hand- picked wild flowers for Mamma and one card and a bouquet of freshly hand-picked wild flowers for Mum. I guess the only difference is the language of the wishes. To her bio-mum, the message is in English.
I am proud of us how during these years we have managed to learn to multiply Love.
There will always be place for more love in our family, even for the third mum ❤ ❤ ❤